मैं औरत हूँ ..

मैं औरत हूँ

दुनिया की धड़कन को चलाती हूँ !

धड़कनों को आदमी की

माँ बन दुनिया में लाती हूँ

साथ उनके बहन बन बन

मैं हँसती खिलखिलाती हूँ

प्रेम का मतलब उनको मैं

प्रेमिका बन सिखाती हूँ

छोड़ के अपना घर आँगन

फिर उनकी ही हो जाती हूँ

बेटी बन हमेशा उनको

मैं सजाती और खिलाती हूँ

हरेक धड़कन को जीती मैं

हरेक धड़कन जिलाती हूँ

मैं औरत हूँ

इस दुनिया की धड़कन को चलाती हूँ !

हँसे धड़कन तो मैं हंस दूँ

जो वो रोये तो रोऊँ मैं

हैं सारे रिश्ते मेरे ये

उम्र भर इनको सेऊं मैं

ख़ुश उनकी ख़ुशी में हूँ

उनके दुख में रोऊँ मैं

जब सबकी फ़िक्र पूरी हो

तभी बस रात सोऊँ मैं

हरदम अपने होंठों पे

दुआओं को बुलाती हूँ

हर इक साँस में ख़ुद की

मैं रिश्तों को निभाती हूँ

हर लम्हा खुद को देती मैं

कभी ख़ुद को मिटाती हूँ

सब कुछ ख़ुद का खो के भी

मैं रिश्तों को बचाती हूँ

खुदा ने प्यार बख़्शा जो

वो दुनिया पे लुटाती हूँ

मैं औरत हूँ

दुनिया की धड़कन को चलाती हूँ !!

Dedicated to all women of the World … Happy Women’s Day !!

#Happywomensday

Change lives

Dear women,
Didn't expect this would be my first post of the year but then I think it's high time I discuss this with each and every one of you because it's getting out of hands.
Few days back, a friend of a close friend committed suicide because she was groped and molested by some jerks. Later it was found that she was raped for two weeks. She couldn't talk to her family because *it was her own uncle*
Over the years, I happened to talk to thousands of girls/women..married and unmarried through social media or in person.
It's the account of comfort that made those kind people express the most humiliating side of their dark past.
Consider this my own survey which technically has no proof of evidence but deep down if you're reading this, were you sexually molested too?
Take a moment.
Think.
I heard disturbing stories from them about getting tortured, taken advantage of, threatening meetings and what not!
One of the lady I met was raped time and again by the FAMILY PANDIT who used to come to her place for all the hawans, like all the time!
Then a woman told me how she was forced by her own uncle to do nasty things to him in exchange for candies.
Today a friend posted about her life and the challenges she's faced every single day ever since she could recall that she existed.
Brothers blackmailing and humping their own sisters.
Fathers groping and molesting their own daughters.
Dear lord, I met this girl once whose mother used to sit and watch as her father forced her to do things!
So many disturbing stories!
I know this is India, and we don't talk about these things in public and especially in family because in most of the cases, it's the family that's the reason of the issue.
But every time I met someone who had shared a past like this and when they used to tell me about the incidents, I saw that their memories have affected their personalities.
If they're shy, it's because they're scared of the past.
If they're blunt; rude, it's because they've accepted the fact that they've been 'used' and they can't move past it.
This is for all you girls out there who've been a victim or have faced something more traumatic;
And I speak on behalf of the remaining section of the society who are sane, educated and not moronic.
I am proud of you all.
Surviving and overcoming the fears and nightmares which I cannot even begin to imagine..
Thank you for being the beautiful souls you all are but now, suffering in silence is becoming like a third stage cancer.
Please open up.
Spread the word.
Take no shame in sharing and naming the people who've caused you this tragedy.
You've come a long way..
Look at yourself, the strong inspiration that you are today to so many little girls who now look upon you for wisdom.
Be all the sassy you want but take no one's shit.
You have the power in your own hands.
And never, never let go of life so easily.
Not because of some jerk who just walks the streets freely and you trap yourself in when you were the free bird.
Fly.
And if there is no one who'd listen then there are people like me.
Strangers but not so strange.
You'll be mothers someday and you'll have your daughters coming over to you to ask for advices and think about this for a moment; one strong decision you take today will make you a proud mother.
Life doesn't end so easily just because you were humiliated.
It's time you give that humiliation back.
Avenge.
One small spark will light up everything good and BURN EVERYTHING BAD.
You're beautiful and precious.
Don't let anyone degrade your consciousness.
The innocence that resides in you, keep it alive but always know when to kick back.
There's are millions like you who need your support.
For everything there's always hope and when there's nobody to talk to;

#mainsachitsingh
#changelives

WITNESS HAPPENED

I met a lady who was forced to marry a guy she hated from her college day but he took it on his 'apparent' male ego and as he was from the same community, convinced the girl's parents and funnily they got married.
On the wedding night she was raped by her own husband and now he sleeps with other women.
The statement he said, "Bola tha na Maine..biwi banunga tujhe..aur apne ghar mein paalunga'
Just like you guys..I was puzzled with one question: I asked the lady, why didn't you tell all of it to your parents and stopped the marriage?
"Bola tha..
Sab bataya..magar same community ka tha aur paise waali humaare level ki family thi toh they said..shaadi ke kuch time baad Sab thik ho jayega"
Haha..
Sahi hai!
Now she's depressed and suicidal.
We've talked a lot of the times about how a person's age of marriage should be 22-23-24 or in some cool timings 25.
We may have parents who might understand this but they will make you do it because of 'duniya bolegi ki 26 saal ki beti ko Abhi tak ghar mein rakha hua hai!'
I totally get family's who won't allow their kids to get married to someone from the other community, oh, and may I add "RIVAL COMMUNITY!"
'Humaare khandan ki ladkiyan chhote kapde nahi pehenti'
'Humaare family mein ladkiyaan kaam Nahi karti!"
"Mobile mein itna internet kahan use ho raha hai?"
"Humaare ghar ki betiyan parties mein Nahi jaati..ladkon se door raho..nazar neeche karke sadak pe chalo..
Sharma ji ki beti ko dekha hai..
Kaisi besharam hai..jab dekho ladke aaye rehte hain uske aas paas..
Izzat..reputation..
Arey kaahe ki izzat bhaisaab?
Mughal zamaane ke raja ho ya Shah Jahan aapki mausi ka ladka lagta hai?
I'm sorry but this is just going out of hands.
The generation?
No..
The mentality?
No.
The pressure of societal trauma.
Call my statement 'Sanskaar-heen', but if we haven't moved past the one thing that's killing uncountable people on a daily basis.
"Hum apne bachche ke ache ke liye hi usko mana karte hain!"
Self defence mechanism achi baat hai..
But baandh kar khaandaan ka darr dikha kar aapne uske
And to all you people, who plan on committing suicide anytime soon..hear me out.
It's a phase.
Just like everything is.
Think about it..
It's a day which will pass..
And a new day will come..
"Don't go against your family and choose killing yourself to save the SO-CALLED izzat of your family!"
Does it even make sense?
You'll die and leave your family in a world which would be worse than 'saving the izzat'.
Talk about things.
"Sab karke dekh liya yaar..koi faayda nahi"
Achi baat hai..yar
Aur karo..
If you don't find anyone who understands, I got your back.
A stranger from an illusional world who'll be there.
I know it's a cliché talking about women's rights but..ladies..just having a family that's cool with you partying and guys friends..that's not freedom, if you're forced to get married to someone you don't want to.
No ma'am. And if all people you know it.
Feel what you have.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
You see that person looking at you from there?
There's so much more in you than the world has seen..
And you want to leave it all only because it got complicated for a few days/months?
Change the rules.
Redefine everything..but do not lose hope.
Never lose hope.
One second worth of mistake will change your 25 years worth of experience.
Think about it.
You're strong.
Stronger than the world has ever seen you.
Be unemotional if that helps but quitting is stupid.
It's so lame, I cannot even begin to define it.
As you read this, the girl is also one of the readers.
She's reading this right now.
And I want you to know, the world has so much more to offer than just the forced reputation and alterations of moods.
Everyone else will tell you how beautiful you are and how your one strong move can change it.
"Shaadi ke baad sab badal jata hai.."
"Sab cheez ki aadat ho jayegi"
"Adjust karna padta hai...shaadi ka dusra naam hi Compromise hai"
Ah, sorry but you cannot rename bullshit with compromise.
I respect other generations but this concept makes no point.
The only way out Is talking.
More talking!
Till they get irritated or furious or violent..but at least make them think about the norms we've created for ourselves.
Age is just a number, they say right?
But who appointed roll numbers to life changing decisions?
Something to talk about, maybe?
#mainsachitsingh
#Changethought
#changelives
#LiveAndLetLive