I met a lady who was forced to marry a guy she hated from her college day but he took it on his 'apparent' male ego and as he was from the same community, convinced the girl's parents and funnily they got married.
On the wedding night she was raped by her own husband and now he sleeps with other women.
The statement he said, "Bola tha na Maine..biwi banunga tujhe..aur apne ghar mein paalunga'
Just like you guys..I was puzzled with one question: I asked the lady, why didn't you tell all of it to your parents and stopped the marriage?
"Bola tha..
Sab bataya..magar same community ka tha aur paise waali humaare level ki family thi toh they said..shaadi ke kuch time baad Sab thik ho jayega"
Haha..
Sahi hai!
Now she's depressed and suicidal.
We've talked a lot of the times about how a person's age of marriage should be 22-23-24 or in some cool timings 25.
We may have parents who might understand this but they will make you do it because of 'duniya bolegi ki 26 saal ki beti ko Abhi tak ghar mein rakha hua hai!'
I totally get family's who won't allow their kids to get married to someone from the other community, oh, and may I add "RIVAL COMMUNITY!"
'Humaare khandan ki ladkiyan chhote kapde nahi pehenti'
'Humaare family mein ladkiyaan kaam Nahi karti!"
"Mobile mein itna internet kahan use ho raha hai?"
"Humaare ghar ki betiyan parties mein Nahi jaati..ladkon se door raho..nazar neeche karke sadak pe chalo..
Sharma ji ki beti ko dekha hai..
Kaisi besharam hai..jab dekho ladke aaye rehte hain uske aas paas..
Izzat..reputation..
Arey kaahe ki izzat bhaisaab?
Mughal zamaane ke raja ho ya Shah Jahan aapki mausi ka ladka lagta hai?
I'm sorry but this is just going out of hands.
The generation?
No..
The mentality?
No.
The pressure of societal trauma.
Call my statement 'Sanskaar-heen', but if we haven't moved past the one thing that's killing uncountable people on a daily basis.
"Hum apne bachche ke ache ke liye hi usko mana karte hain!"
Self defence mechanism achi baat hai..
But baandh kar khaandaan ka darr dikha kar aapne uske
And to all you people, who plan on committing suicide anytime soon..hear me out.
It's a phase.
Just like everything is.
Think about it..
It's a day which will pass..
And a new day will come..
"Don't go against your family and choose killing yourself to save the SO-CALLED izzat of your family!"
Does it even make sense?
You'll die and leave your family in a world which would be worse than 'saving the izzat'.
Talk about things.
"Sab karke dekh liya yaar..koi faayda nahi"
Achi baat hai..yar
Aur karo..
If you don't find anyone who understands, I got your back.
A stranger from an illusional world who'll be there.
I know it's a cliché talking about women's rights but..ladies..just having a family that's cool with you partying and guys friends..that's not freedom, if you're forced to get married to someone you don't want to.
No ma'am. And if all people you know it.
Feel what you have.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
You see that person looking at you from there?
There's so much more in you than the world has seen..
And you want to leave it all only because it got complicated for a few days/months?
Change the rules.
Redefine everything..but do not lose hope.
Never lose hope.
One second worth of mistake will change your 25 years worth of experience.
Think about it.
You're strong.
Stronger than the world has ever seen you.
Be unemotional if that helps but quitting is stupid.
It's so lame, I cannot even begin to define it.
As you read this, the girl is also one of the readers.
She's reading this right now.
And I want you to know, the world has so much more to offer than just the forced reputation and alterations of moods.
Everyone else will tell you how beautiful you are and how your one strong move can change it.
"Shaadi ke baad sab badal jata hai.."
"Sab cheez ki aadat ho jayegi"
"Adjust karna padta hai...shaadi ka dusra naam hi Compromise hai"
Ah, sorry but you cannot rename bullshit with compromise.
I respect other generations but this concept makes no point.
The only way out Is talking.
More talking!
Till they get irritated or furious or violent..but at least make them think about the norms we've created for ourselves.
Age is just a number, they say right?
But who appointed roll numbers to life changing decisions?
Something to talk about, maybe?
#mainsachitsingh
#Changethought
#changelives
#LiveAndLetLive
On the wedding night she was raped by her own husband and now he sleeps with other women.
The statement he said, "Bola tha na Maine..biwi banunga tujhe..aur apne ghar mein paalunga'
Just like you guys..I was puzzled with one question: I asked the lady, why didn't you tell all of it to your parents and stopped the marriage?
"Bola tha..
Sab bataya..magar same community ka tha aur paise waali humaare level ki family thi toh they said..shaadi ke kuch time baad Sab thik ho jayega"
Haha..
Sahi hai!
Now she's depressed and suicidal.
We've talked a lot of the times about how a person's age of marriage should be 22-23-24 or in some cool timings 25.
We may have parents who might understand this but they will make you do it because of 'duniya bolegi ki 26 saal ki beti ko Abhi tak ghar mein rakha hua hai!'
I totally get family's who won't allow their kids to get married to someone from the other community, oh, and may I add "RIVAL COMMUNITY!"
'Humaare khandan ki ladkiyan chhote kapde nahi pehenti'
'Humaare family mein ladkiyaan kaam Nahi karti!"
"Mobile mein itna internet kahan use ho raha hai?"
"Humaare ghar ki betiyan parties mein Nahi jaati..ladkon se door raho..nazar neeche karke sadak pe chalo..
Sharma ji ki beti ko dekha hai..
Kaisi besharam hai..jab dekho ladke aaye rehte hain uske aas paas..
Izzat..reputation..
Arey kaahe ki izzat bhaisaab?
Mughal zamaane ke raja ho ya Shah Jahan aapki mausi ka ladka lagta hai?
I'm sorry but this is just going out of hands.
The generation?
No..
The mentality?
No.
The pressure of societal trauma.
Call my statement 'Sanskaar-heen', but if we haven't moved past the one thing that's killing uncountable people on a daily basis.
"Hum apne bachche ke ache ke liye hi usko mana karte hain!"
Self defence mechanism achi baat hai..
But baandh kar khaandaan ka darr dikha kar aapne uske
And to all you people, who plan on committing suicide anytime soon..hear me out.
It's a phase.
Just like everything is.
Think about it..
It's a day which will pass..
And a new day will come..
"Don't go against your family and choose killing yourself to save the SO-CALLED izzat of your family!"
Does it even make sense?
You'll die and leave your family in a world which would be worse than 'saving the izzat'.
Talk about things.
"Sab karke dekh liya yaar..koi faayda nahi"
Achi baat hai..yar
Aur karo..
If you don't find anyone who understands, I got your back.
A stranger from an illusional world who'll be there.
I know it's a cliché talking about women's rights but..ladies..just having a family that's cool with you partying and guys friends..that's not freedom, if you're forced to get married to someone you don't want to.
No ma'am. And if all people you know it.
Feel what you have.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
You see that person looking at you from there?
There's so much more in you than the world has seen..
And you want to leave it all only because it got complicated for a few days/months?
Change the rules.
Redefine everything..but do not lose hope.
Never lose hope.
One second worth of mistake will change your 25 years worth of experience.
Think about it.
You're strong.
Stronger than the world has ever seen you.
Be unemotional if that helps but quitting is stupid.
It's so lame, I cannot even begin to define it.
As you read this, the girl is also one of the readers.
She's reading this right now.
And I want you to know, the world has so much more to offer than just the forced reputation and alterations of moods.
Everyone else will tell you how beautiful you are and how your one strong move can change it.
"Shaadi ke baad sab badal jata hai.."
"Sab cheez ki aadat ho jayegi"
"Adjust karna padta hai...shaadi ka dusra naam hi Compromise hai"
Ah, sorry but you cannot rename bullshit with compromise.
I respect other generations but this concept makes no point.
The only way out Is talking.
More talking!
Till they get irritated or furious or violent..but at least make them think about the norms we've created for ourselves.
Age is just a number, they say right?
But who appointed roll numbers to life changing decisions?
Something to talk about, maybe?
#mainsachitsingh
#Changethought
#changelives
#LiveAndLetLive
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